Premarital Counselling: Why Even Happy Couples Benefit from a Relationship Check-Up

You don’t have to be in trouble to go to counselling.

In fact, some of the smartest, most loving, well-matched couples I’ve worked with have come in for premarital counselling just to make sure they’re asking the right questions and setting themselves up for long-term connection - not just a great wedding.

And honestly - this work isn’t only for couples with a ring on their finger. It’s just as valuable for couples deciding whether to move in together, thinking about starting a family, or going through any big life shift. I also see plenty of couples who’ve lived together for a few years and notice the “little things” starting to pile up. You don’t have to wait until it becomes a crisis. This is the perfect time to build skills, clarity, and confidence for the future.

Why Smart Couples Try Premarital Counselling Before Marriage (Even When Things Are Great)

I’ve worked with couples for over 15 years, and I’ve lived a lot of it myself - divorce, remarriage, blending families, raising kids, growing, rebuilding.I am a deeply practical therapist who knows real life is messy - and that even great relationships take work. I’m not here to hand out cookie-cutter advice or judge your choices. I help you find what works for you as a couple.

Think of premarital counselling as a relationship check-up - a chance to get clarity on where you’re aligned, where you’re making assumptions, and where things might get bumpy if they’re not talked about early.

What’s Included? (And What’s Coming Soon)

Right now, I use a mix of the best approaches I’ve found over years of training and experience. My sessions draw from:

• Gottman Method

• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

• Somatic psychology

• Mindfulness and meditation

• Eastern practices (including Tantra)

• Trauma-informed techniques

I don’t follow one rigid script. We’ll tailor it to what you need.

That said, I’ll soon be incorporating Prepare/Enrich, a well-researched tool that includes an online assessment followed by eight guided sessions. And who doesn't like a good assessment with charts and graphs that helps me offer you support uniquely suited to you and your partner. It’s a great add-on for couples who like structure and want to work through all the major areas in a clear, step-by-step way.

What We’ll Talk About

We’ll cover the things that really matter long-term:

• Communication styles and how to handle conflict

• Emotional needs and attachment habits

• Finances and how you each think about money

• Sex, affection, and what intimacy means to each of you

• Boundaries with extended family

• Division of responsibilities at home

• Whether or not you want children - and how you’d raise them

You can come for a few sessions to get the conversation started, you pick the topics that are most important to you, or stay for the full eight-session package. It’s completely up to you.

The Intimacy Foundation Most Couples Skip

Let’s talk about intimacy. Not just sex (but yes, sex too), but real emotional and physical closeness.

Most couples skip this part or assume it will sort itself out. But when life throws big things your way - pregnancy, parenting, career shifts, health struggles—intimacy is usually the first thing to suffer.

Couples tell me all the time: “We wish we’d done this 10 years ago.”

I ask, “When did these problems start?”

They look at each other and say, “Oh… after our second baby was born.”

“How old is he now?”

“Twelve.”

That’s incredibly common. First you’re busy. Then you hope it will get better. Then you start cycling between trying and giving up. By the time couples get to my office, it’s rarely “too late” - there’s so much we can do. But it would have been so much easier if we had addressed these patterns before the cracks formed.

People come in overwhelmed, disconnected, and wondering what happened. But the root usually started years earlier - when expectations, needs, desires, and ways of staying connected during stress weren’t talked about clearly.

Premarital counselling helps you build that intimacy foundation now. We’ll create ways to stay emotionally close and physically connected, even when life gets chaotic—so you’re not trying to rebuild your bond 12 years down the road.

Why Wait Until There’s a Problem?

Research shows couples wait an average of 6-8 years after issues start before getting help. In my experience it's more. By then, resentment has piled up. Everything is so much harder because the hurt runs deep. It definitely isn't fun. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Doing this work now isn’t about fixing something broken - it’s about protecting what’s good. It’s easier to have these conversations before you’re knee-deep in diapers, sleep deprivation, or navigating in-laws and financial stress.

Ready to Future-Proof Your Relationship?

If you’re serious about building a life together, premarital counselling is one of the smartest, most loving investments you can make. I’ll guide you through it with care, flexibility, and no fluff.

You bring the love. I’ll bring the tools. (Chat GPT suggested this, and maybe it's cheesy, but I actually love it. And I do have the tools.)

👉 Curious or ready to start? Click here to book your free consultation.

You won’t regret being proactive. You might regret waiting.