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Sex Therapy for Couples

Getting help with Sex Therapy

You feel like roommates not lovers

You wonder if sex therapy is what you need. Your relationship is strong. You love each other and you are best friends. You are great parents. On the surface you are a perfect couple, but you are struggling in the bedroom.  Sex is not great, if not non-existent. You feel like roommates, not lovers and you want to find hope that you can reconnect and be intimate again.

 

One of you is exhausted, tired and has no desire. You long to be back to the time when things were spontaneous and easy. You can’t stand to disappoint your partner, to see the hurt in their eyes when they ask to have sex and so you say yes just to please them but it isn't at all fulfilling for you.

 

The other of you longs for intimacy, desire, freedom to give and receive pleasure. It's the best feeling in the world to be with your partner because to you, it's so much more than sex. It's how you connect and show love. It's how you play and explore. You want to feel desired but you’ve been rejected so many times, you stopped asking. 

You don’t have to be disconnected in intimacy.

You both have been trying. It's stressful and exhausting. You are pretty clear that things are not getting better, and you can’t remember the last time sex was fun.

 

You used to cuddle, kiss and hold hands, but you don’t anymore and you miss it. It has left you feeling  like a failure. Disconnected. Powerless.  You don’t know how to talk about it, and when you try, it turns into a fight or disappointment. 

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You want to feel held, loved, touched. You want your body to respond. You want to feel wanted, adored, desired. Sometimes you are not sure if you can anymore (yes, you can!) ​

 

You want the spark back, you want the ease, you want to have FUN again. You want to be able to talk about it. 

 

You want more. You know it’s possible. You just don’t know where to start.

Sex Therapy Can Help

My name is Rovena Magidin, I am a sex therapist and couples counsellor, and working with intimacy and sexuality is my passion. I help couples create relationships and intimacy that’s deeply fulfilling for them. 

 

For over 15 years I have trained in the field of sexuality from both Eastern and Western perspective. We might be using tools from neuroscience perspective, or we might be talking about Tantra. It’s whatever works for You. You will feel safe, and comfortable and you will feel supported. 

Rovena Magidin, RTC, Individual and Couples Counsellor, Speaking about Core Erotic Blueprints at Telus Spark

What is sex therapy like with me? 

One of the first things people comment on about the sessions - how comfortable they feel when talking about such vulnerable issues as sex. How much information they get, how practical it is, and how confident they are that they can apply the skills they are learning. Talking about sex doesn’t have to be awkward, it can actually be …. Fun. 

 

I see couples who haven’t had sex for years flirting and laughing and exploring new things in the bedroom. I see people excited to talk about intimacy and to learn more about their partner. I have people tell me “We are so lucky we’ve got you. I thought there’s something wrong me, but there isn’t anything wrong. I feel so much lighter.” Or “We got to connect on a level I was afraid had disappeared. It came back loud and clear last night. I'm so grateful.  Thanks again.” 

Common issues in sex therapy 

  • desire discrepancy or mismatched desire 

  • low sex drive / no energy / blocks to arousal or orgasms 

  • healing sexual pain 

  • physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual components of sex issues 

  • communication about sex, touch, intimacy, needs, wants, desires and fantasies 

  • confidence/performance anxiety/re-defining sexual health  

  • shame/guilt/fears/grief/trauma

  • elusive/non-existant orgasms

  • Recovery after an affair 

I often see couples who are doing great, and want to do even better. 

  • tantra and tantric sexuality. Energy of sex. Energetic orgasms

  • rediscovering play and creativity in the bedroom

  • learning about your Core Erotic Blueprints

  • strengthening your bond 

  • discovering how to have fantastic sex life through life changes like pregnancy and postpartum, menopause, aging

Inclusivity and Safety

I strive to be a radically inclusive therapist, meaning I work with adults (18+) - all adults. I work with people of all genders and sexual orientations, I work with people from different cultures and races and faiths. I am LGBTQA-friendly and celebrating, kink-affirming and educated, polyamory-friendly and affirmative.  Can we just say that I am friendly and affirming?  Because I am. I want to create a very safe space for you to show up as you are. To explore your identity, lifestyle, needs and desires. To figure out what works for your relationships. I want you to feel seen, as you are. 

Ready for the next step?

I’d love to help you and your partner discover how sex therapy can change you relationship for the better. Click here to schedule your free 30 - minutes phone or online consultation for sex therapy or intimacy coaching in Calgary. People wonder if they can call me and ask questions about sex. Yes you can. It’s a great conversation to have. And I can assure you it doesn’t have to be embarrassing or awkward. I’d love to help you and your partner feel connected again.

My other specialties include Couples and Marriage Counselling and Individual Counselling

It is time to call and get help in the bedroom with Sex Therapy.

Have questions first? No problem. Please contact me. I’d be happy to talk to you and make sure you have all the information you need to make the right decision for you.