Marriage and Couples Counselling
Expert Couples Counselling in Calgary, AB
Love, Intimacy and Sex - Create a relationship that brings you joy and fulfillment
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it"
Does your marriage have to be this hard?
Last night was another horrible fight. It's the same fight over and over again. You both are unhappy, feeling like your needs are not met. Then the resentment builds. You both try to work it out only to end up hurting each other again, even over little things that don't really matter. You go from 0 to 100 in seconds flat because you both feel so defensive. You wonder - How can two people who love each other so much fight like this?
You feel disconnected as a couple.
You don't want to lose each other, but you don't know what to do. One of you gets frustrated and it alienates the other. Then there is no safety to share how you truly feel, so you stop sharing your feelings, and start to think you both might be too different for each other.
You feel more like roommates than lovers.
You miss your lover, the intimacy and the connection. You long to be desired and to be understood. While there is a lot of love between you both, the fear is there too. It feels like you are alone, because you don’t see how much other couples struggle. You just see the perfect pictures of their “perfect” date nights on FB, and you feel pain in your heart, because it’s no longer like that for you.
There is hope.
You are not broken, and if you are here, chances are your relationship is not broken. You just need some help. You need some tools, you need some hope and inspiration, you need to slow down - and you and your partner need to find your way towards each other again. And that’s where I come in.
Expert Couples Counseling in Calgary.
My name is Rovena and I’m a therapist who loves helping couples. It's my passion and my purpose. I’m a huge relationship geek and I've studied with some of the best couples therapists, learning and practicing tools from modern Western psychology to Eastern traditions that view relationships as a spiritual practice.
I love bringing sacredness and mindfulness into our sessions along with some really cool practices which will help you communicate about things you don't know how to say. Tools that help you heal past hurts, tools that will help you develop friendships again, and tools that will help you reconnect in the bedroom.
Depending on what supports you most, I will use tools from Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Core Erotic Blueprints™, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, Love Coaching, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, Attachment Theory, EMDR and/or Yoga, Mindfulness and Neo-Tantra. I have a lot of training and a lot of tools in my toolbox, we'll find what supports you best.
What does it feel to work together
I want to help you feel seen and heard and deeply understood in your relationship, both of you. It's about connection. It's about being authentically yourself - and have a relationship that can grow and change and support both of you fully.
Communication challenges, conflict resolution, intimacy and sex - there's so much we can do to create a relationship that's deeply fulfilling for you.
Working with me is an exploration. You will learn about yourself and your partner. You will feel supported along the way in a very practical way. You'll get to practice connecting with each other in a real deep way. You'll be able to share who you are. And l'd feel honored to facilitate this journey for you.
I'm not here to take sides, to figure out whose fault it is, who started it. I'm on the side of your relationship. I'm not afraid of a challenge.
In between sessions, you’ll also have weekly homework! Otherwise we are just sitting here talking about stuff. That's not how change happens. You get to practice the skills we are learning, creating momentum first, then lasting change, and finally, a transformation.
It’s Time To Start Couples Counselling
I’d love to help you. Click here to schedule your free 30 minute phone or online consultation for Couples Counseling in Calgary. I’d be happy to answer your questions and make sure we are a good fit. My other specialties include Intimacy and Sex Therapy as well as Individual Counselling.
See what others have said about Couples Counselling with me:
“We got to connect on a level I was afraid had disappeared. It came back loud and clear last night. I'm so grateful. Thanks again”
“We left our first session with you feeling hopeful and excited for the next session!”
“So much healing in the power of touch. To give & receive is such a beautiful expression of pure love. 💕 When a person feels so safe. All the stories drop away. The shoulds & I could never. Just a pure human experience of love.”
Contraindications to Couples Counselling
While I’m able to help so many couples, there are a few situations where I might not be the best fit, including
People who don't want to take personal responsibility for their relationship. If you'd rather be right than kind, this is not the right work for you. Both of you must be willing to grow.
If there's domestic violence, active addiction or an untreated acute mental illness present in the relationship - you may need specialized help with a licensed professional, and it's likely that you will need individual support before pursuing Couples Counselling.
Have questions first? No problem. Please contact me. I’d be happy to talk to you.