Gottman Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method For Couples
Gottman's Therapy for Couples is one of the most known, loved and most researched approaches to Couples Counselling. It's very practical, non judgemental and inclusive to all. I probably use some of Dr. Gottman's tools with most of my couples.
So, what is The Gottman Method?
Gottman Couples Therapy is an evidence-based approach to couples counselling proven to improve your relationship.
This approach is based on Dr John Gottman's 40+ years of research with thousands of couples. It is a scientific and empirically-validated approach to helping couples resolve conflicts and achieve greater connection and intimacy. Couples learn practical skills to improve the friendship in their relationships and help them manage conflict in a positive way.
John Gottman is profiled in Malcolm Gladwell's bestseller Blink for his ability to predict divorce with 94% accuracy after watching a couple have a conversation for just a few minutes.
Dr. John Gottman was recognized by Psychotherapy Networker, a professional journal, as one of the ten most influential psychologists of the past 25 years.
The goals of the Gottman Method include:
Increasing closeness and friendship behaviours
Addressing conflict productively
Building a life of shared meaning together
Gottman Method therapy aims to increase respect, affection, and closeness, break through and resolve conflict, generate greater understandings, and to keep conflict discussions calm.
How Rovena uses the Gottman Method to help you build a stronger relationship:
We start with an comprehensive assessment and then create an individualized roadmap, or a plan that will help you create a fulfilling, supportive, beautiful relationship
After this, you and your partner will fill out an online evaluation separately that will help identify the strengths and the weak points (or problem areas) of your relationship.
Next, I may have one-on-one sessions with each partner as needed. This is an opportunity to discuss things with me alone, and will help to ensure I hear your concerns and intentions.
Based on the results of the evaluation and our individual sessions, we co-create a plan on how to move forward.
Using this plan, we will have sessions together. You’ll learn the tools and the skills you need to handle conflicts, develop deeper compassion and understanding, improve intimacy, and create a meaningful life together.
The intention of the Gottman Method is to empower you with tools so, by the end of our work, you feel confident that you can discuss anything and find solutions together. You’ll be well on your way to becoming a relationship master (and not relationship Disaster, as Dr. Gottman calls it)!
Results of the Gottman Method for couples
Increased affection and closeness
Increased appreciation and respect
More fulfilling friendship and intimacy
Greater understanding in your relationship
Will help you build a life of shared meaning together
Manage conflict in a positive way and overcome gridlock
Build love maps and create rituals of connection
Improved communication skills - everyone feels heard and understood
Identify your relationship-specific strengths and how to build on them
Create an emotional bank account that you can draw on in times of stress
Help heal relationship injuries and resentments
Stronger emotional intelligence
If you want to explore if Gottman's Therapy is right for you, book your free consultation here. If you have questions, please reach out as well. I’d be happy to talk to you and answer any questions you may have.
